Sometimes, they align with your values and help you make wise decisions, but other times, they can be a bit restrictive or cause unnecessary trouble.
We've got an exercise that'll help you examine one of those rules and see if it's really serving you well.
Let's Talk About a Recent Experience
Think about a recent situation that left you feeling a bit uneasy about your thoughts or actions. Nothing too big, just something that made you go, "Hmm, was that the right thing to do?" Describe the situation and what you did that seemed to violate one of your inner rules.
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Which Rule Are We Talking About?
Identify the Rule
What's the little guideline you think you broke? Don't worry; we all have them. Go ahead and tell us about the rule and how it influenced your thinking or behaviour. You can use one of our suggestions or select your own.
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Where Did That Rule Come From?
Now, let's play detective! Where did this rule even come from? Was it handed down by someone important in your life? Or maybe it's a product of some life events that shaped your beliefs? Take a moment to explore why you think this rule is valuable to you.
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Weigh the Pros and Cons
Time to put on your thinking cap! Every rule has its perks and downsides. Analyse the advantages and disadvantages of this particular rule. Remember, a single benefit or drawback doesn't define its overall worth. So, let's get critical and look at the big picture.
List Advantages
List Disadvantages
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Keep or Change?
You've done the groundwork, and now it's decision time! Based on your analysis, decide whether to stick with the rule as is, give it a complete overhaul, or replace it with something better suited to your fabulous self. If you opt for a new version, make sure it brings more benefits while kicking those drawbacks to the curb. Jot down your refined rule and start thinking about how to weave it into your everyday life.
If you've chosen to change, what would you like the rule to be?
Plan for Implementation: Think about and write down how you will incorporate this adjusted rule into your daily life.
Exercise Completed
There you have it! Understanding your inner guidelines can be quite the journey, but it's all about growing and becoming the best version of yourself.
Let's take a look at what we have learned:
Let's Take A Look At What We've Learned
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